What To Do When You Feel So Out Of Control

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Do you ever have those days when you feel so out of control …and the only word you’d use to describe yourself would be “helpless”?

Yeah, me too!

In fact, I had one of those days about two weeks ago.

Here’s what happened:

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Photo credit pixabay

I was rushing off immediately after lunch to catch a friend waiting in the car, but still had one of my favourite’s smoothie (super berry with banana) untouched. So I dumped (not ladylike) everything in my bag including my laptop and smoothie and rushed off to join my friend.

(I broke the rule here – don’t ever rush for anything, the world won’t stop because you’re late)

By the time I got home that evening, my laptop won’t come on, it was drenched with the whole smoothie, I tried all the tips I could find online but no luck.

It then dawned on me that I had no back up, no access to my information anywhere- I mean no access. I decided to pay Apple Store a visit the next day.

I waited for nearly two hours before my Mac Pro was finally diagnosed of having overdose of super berry (like I didn’t know), and without considering my facial expression (now looking like a wet puppy), the engineer said very casually, “it will cost you £1300 plus VAT to fix it.” And here’s the fine print “I doubt if we’re able to retrieve the data.”

So what on earth am I paying for?

As I walked out of the Apple Store, I began thinking that life is a series of ebbs and flows. Of times when we are bursting with energy, productivity and creativity, and times when we need to be internal, to shut the world out and protect our energy.

I concluded that this was surely the latter.

The verdict of the data recovery specialist I went to see was not different from the technician at the Apple Store, “I’ll try my best but can’t promise.”

But my scripts didn’t change, “I’m positive that we’ll retrieve the data.”

No laptop no data – so what do I do?

I felt this was the time to let go of everything that needs to perish so that new life can be planted, grow and blossom.

As Valorie Burton said “it was time to stop, pause, and plan”


Many women feel bad about wanting to shut the world out. They feel worried because they don’t know how to do this without causing harm to their business. Life is busy; time is short. How can we shut the world out and still get on with the day-to-day of our lives?

The simple answer is “surrender”, and “trust.”

Yes! I told you it’s as simple as that.

Once you’re willing to surrender and trust God, you can shut the world out and still get on with your lives by not feeling bad about it! By accepting the fact, wholly and fully, that the whole of creation are working together for your good, and need to use this time to regenerate.

(Yes, I am living and practicing this lifestyle!). 

Just last Friday the specialist was able to retrieve all my data after two weeks, but I was able to hibernate and back out again, cleansed, purged, made anew and ready for action.

Have you ever felt out of control? What did you do?


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5 Comments on What To Do When You Feel So Out Of Control

  1. Boroji
    1st November 2016 at 12:29 pm (1 year ago)

    Lovely post. Thanks Aji, quite liberating. I agree with you – indeed all things work together for the good of those who trust God. So it’s key to just always trust that God has got your back and won’t let you fall but catch you and He’s never too late. Also when there’s life, there’s hope – so we must always keep hope alive.

    • Aji Michael
      1st November 2016 at 3:19 pm (1 year ago)

      Yes, He’s got our back!

  2. Hannah
    1st November 2016 at 3:31 pm (1 year ago)

    I love the now “looking like a wet puppy”. Bless you Aji and thank you for sharing this experience. I am learning to do that though I must confess my first reaction is the word ‘Panic’.

    I intend to start practicing this lifestyle also.

    • Aji Michael
      1st November 2016 at 3:40 pm (1 year ago)

      Way to go sweetheart!

  3. Detola
    1st November 2016 at 3:38 pm (1 year ago)

    Stop Pause and Plan.. Thank you for this


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