I love this quote that says – “You can’t be who you were and who you are at the same time” – seriously, it’s a recipe for failure. That means, to be a successful woman, you can’t be doing the same thing and expect to get a different result. With these in mind; as I was planning for 2017, I made a decision to approach this year differently, and here’s how:
It’s a common knowledge that the New Year is usually when people make resolutions, vision boards, goal settings, etc. these are good stuff as they all geared towards creating a successful life. But many times they just don’t work!
For instance, having a vision board is one thing, taking actions is another: A vision board will not make you a success, it is taking the necessary steps to actualising your vision board that makes one a success. So here’s what I’ve learned, we don’t need to add more things to our lives – we only need to learn how to do what we are doing differently.
There are certain things that are universal – regardless of your circumstances or profession; these things, if you do them differently will help you become more successful beyond 2017.
1. Think differently: Success is a state of mind. Our tangible achievements, goals reached, certificates earned, or talents developed are the result of our thoughts. And if thoughts lead to actions, actions lead to habits, and our habits are what decide our eventual character and destiny – would this logic not propose that in order to accomplish big things, we must first develop the ability to think big? And yet, thinking big is not sufficient. We also need to think differently, and act consistently in alignment with our new way of thinking. I’ve discovered from my own experience that, most of us struggle with thinking differently because we are so focused on our present circumstances, that we refused to see the future possibilities of our desired life.
If you want to go on this journey with me, I’ll suggest the best place to start is to begin looking at yourself and circumstances differently: for example, if you don’t like your job because you think you have a terrible boss, how about thinking it this way:
“Although my boss doesn’t like me, but it’s an opportunity for me to show her love, or be grateful that you have a job”
May be you just had a terrible relationship – take a cue from me and think of it this way, its an opportunity to do it right and create your new love story. Don’t sit down in ‘pity patty’; it won’t do you any good.
Always remember that thinking differently is a skill, and you must begin now by training your mind to never fear what others think or say, and learn how to eliminate the voices of fear and doubt.
2. SPEAK DIFFERENTLY: Statistics show that the words we say contribute only a very small percent to the whole process of effective communication. It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. There are so many different factors that contribute to how your message is perceived: your facial expressions, body language and, maybe most importantly, your tone of voice and how you actually speak are being processed on a subconscious level.
I’ve seen that the most successful women are often not the most talented, the most gifted, or even the most experienced. What these women have is a knack for communicating that opens doors and gives them influence.
The first place to start is to begin pay attention to how you sound, though not many of us think about it, our voices convey our emotions — and could be holding us back. Avoid turning statements into questions, but also avoid the dreaded “vocal fry,” where your voice sounds monotone with no emotion. Successful women simply, sound and act confident!
My friend Toks of The Baby Cot Shop recommended this book by Valorie Burton – Successful Women Speak Differently. I just picked a copy myself.
3. EAT DIFFERENTLY: Diets? Most people hate that word (me too). When they think of the word Diet, it seem like they have a chore to do, making them feeling frustrating and overwhelming. I can imagine people always telling you what you should or should not eat can get annoying. Here’s what I’ve learned, just changing the way I think about food and how I eat can dramatically create a healthy lifestyle.
While you might have to eat different types of foods, you do not have to STOP eating the things that you love – changing the little things can help a lot. For instance I’m a coffee lover, I used to have four to five cups a day, now I’ve reduced to an average of two a day.
So I say, DO NOT DIET, successful women focus on CREATING a healthy and beautiful body by eating differently forever, not just for a month!
Friends always remember that in order to accomplish big things, you must always think differently, speak differently, and eat differently! Here are the three things I’ll be doing differently this year, how about you, what are you or would you be doing differently?